I want to say something to you first before I reply to your comments below.
You know how Paul wasn't seeking God when Jesus appeared to him...well, the Gentiles didn't either. The old testament scriptures has God saying He is going to be God to a people who did not seek Him. That is about the Gentiles while the foundation was being laid. However, the foundation is laid and all must seek Him now.
Paul was an apostle unnaturally born. Paul was not with Jesus while Jesus was a man on earth.
I just don't like the sound of "had to" or "have to" because it connotates an adversarial relationship in my mind.
I know exactly what you mean. However, we really do have to do what Jesus says to get saved. Jesus tells us exactly what to do to be saved.
It probably doesn't in yours.
I will tell you though, I kept humble. I knew Jesus said to be humble, so that is something I was determined to do, so nothing really was too offensive to me. Do you understand what I mean?
The bottom line is that all those who love God will obey him. All those who love God will repent, repent, and repent as they grow to recognize sin more clearly.
We are talking about how Jesus teaches it. It is about the scriptures. We are talking about the Way, not about a way, for there is only one Way for all.
For me, it is not a matter of "have to" but I understand that it might have been in your case. I can't judge your experience. But in my case, it was "want to." I was thirsty for it and as a deer pants for water in a dry place, my soul panted for the Lord.
So you say you wanted it more than anything, right? So, why wouldn't you be willing to do anything that Jesus says to do to get it? Jesus says we must humble ourselves as a little child or we will never enter. So if you hear that 'must', why let your heart be hardened, when Jesus said you must be humble? To harden your heart would prevent you from entering, so stay humble, right?
I gave total credit to the Lord for my salvation. The only possible thing I did was not resist the master's hand. He began a good work in me and is completing it. I praise Him. I do not disagree with you that you may have had to seek God by getting Jesus' teachings and doing what He said, but that was not the case for me.
Everyone might have a different life experience, but no one is saved differently. If one can be saved differently, then it makes Jesus' words nullified. For instance, Jesus says you must humble yourself as a child or you will never enter. Let's say you claim no, that you entered and were saved and didn't humble myself as a child---you then just nullified Jesus' words.
In the end, we end up in the same place. Obeying and loving Jesus with new hearts.
The truth and the Way matters. If you are corrected in the truth, why not be glad for it?