Doctrines develop by their own trends and evolve by various factors, but ECT is a potpourri derived of various translations/interpretations of just a few passages, mostly metaphor and allegory, while it has been a blight on the good character of 'God' as its professed or believed by some, making 'God' into a sadistic monster or something worse.
It is amazing the way people project their own thought processes, how they would feel about God if He were to be other than the God they can love and worship, onto those who accept, love, and worship God as He is and how He says He is. As He shows Himself to be in scripture, particularly in the OT. If we have to make God in the image of one we can worship, we are not worshiping the God who is.
Love could never impose ECT on any soul,
And we do not get to define what love is according to what it is to us. You seem to think that mankind did nothing wrong and that God is not holy and just. You seem to think justice and love cannot live alongside one another in equal measure within God. Justice is part and parcel of love, and it is God who determines love and who determines justice. Not the creatures He has made.
but the absolute truth of 'God' and his nature is forever absolute, so those who take refuge in him, shall afford themselves heaven.
One cannot take refuge in Him and at the same time live a life of disobedience, metaphoricly spitting in His face. Shaking a fist at Him and saying you will be what I want you to be and let me do as I please. Only His covenant people--the old one and the new one---can take refuge in Him. And disobedience will meet correction and discipline, but they cannot be separated from Christ.
I see Love as all-inclusive and reject a theology that demeans the character of Deity to various anthropomorphic images of man's own making, then assumes that this 'god' does his various impieties and heinous deeds for his own purposes and glory (the deviltry!), and then assumes that any intelligent person ought to accept such beliefs.
More projection. In case you missed it---He is the Potter, we are the clay.
As long as a soul has the ability to repent and choose 'God', he can be saved,
And just exactly are those things we should repent of?
Since all is done within the ultimate context of divine providence and God's omnipresence, there can be no seperation from 'God' in reality,
I am wondering then, why Adam and Eve were thrown out of the Garden, and God cursed the ground, and set all of mankind to heavy labor?
ECT and eternal hellfire imagery was here before Calvin in various texts, aspects of such a belief/con-cept just got enhanced in various ways within the 'forensics' of his theology, which while assuming to be for God's glory, seems to just justify this god's vengeful wrath, exclusivity and fury, and deems such behavior as 'worthy' of 'God', but I question it all. -
You don't see any reason or justification for God's wrath against mankind? And His wrath is not vengeful----it is just. As you said, but then interpret in a way that is more suitable and acceptable in your view, God is always true to Himself. God is not a big ball of glowing namastes and human love floating around. He is real.
It might be possible if one can explain and lay out all the factors and mechanics of HOW ECT could be maintained, and good luck at that, besides assuming 'God' has pre-planned and pre-disposed already a vast majority of souls to eternal damnation, and only a small handful cherry-picked for 'salvation', all by his own arbitrary and grandiose choosing.
Mankind is self condemned. God meets out His justice. And those He saves are not "cherry picked" that is you projection again. And those He saves is in no way arbitrary for arbitrary is not one of the attributes that exist in God (projection again confining God to the limits of human reason). Neither is it grandiose. God has the right to decide who lives in His house, just as you do.